As a full-time mum and an online entrepreneur, I have to face self-discipline issues day in day out. Raising two small kids and building my own business takes all my energy and time. Sometimes I felt like my house and my life, in general, was a complete mess and there was no way out. That was until I came up with few every-day actions which help me to keep my daily routine manageable and prevent me from feeling drained at the end of the day. I realized that self-discipline was a set of good habits that I needed to adapt and implement every day until they became my reliant auto-pilot. I am happy to share my 5 proven methods for gaining better control, more clarity on the long-lasting goals and mindful approach to the everyday routine:
1 PLAN YOUR WEEK AHEAD
I like doing it on Sunday. I have my weekly planner on the fridge and an events’ and appointments’ calendar on my phone. Going through them quickly I see what I need to do, where I need to be next week. Create a To-Do list and keep it visible! Personally, I experience a great pleasure ticking off the boxes. It gives me a sense of accomplishment. Another great tip is to plan all your meals for a week and make a shopping list for them. Well, in this area it is still work in progress for me… But it is a great way to free some space in your mind for more valuable thoughts than a cooking planner (unless you are really into cooking). While working on my business I put two-three main, but achievable goals for the upcoming week. Some goals take hours to complete, some months or even years. So it’s easier to do it when you chunk it down to little pieces. This is why a To-Do list is crucial.
2 START YOUR DAY WITH MEDITATION
It doesn’t have to be an hour meditation, 15-20 min is enough to clear the mind, and set the right tone for the day. It is proven to help to improve mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health. I like guided meditations, but sometimes when I have some issues to resolve or make an important decision this day I prefer to listen to just soft music to let my inner voice get through that constant chatterbox in my head. Sometimes it works miraculously. A decision, an answer or an idea just lighten up some sort of bulb in my head and I know that it is definitely the right one. It doesn’t always work for me, but it happens quite often, so it is surely worth a good shot. Another great idea is to spend 5 minutes during your meditation on gratitude. The effects of gratitude are far-reaching and most importantly, it helps to move us away from a state of lack and towards a state of abundance.
3 DO WHAT YOU HATE DOING FIRST
According to the famous hypnotherapist, an author and a motivational speaker Marisa Peer what all successful people have in common is that they plan their day by doing what they don’t like first. Really, once I started doing that I got rid of that daunting feeling that I could carry all day long, which sucked out all my mental energy. Important or uncomfortable call, doing taxes or anything like that better to be dealt with first thing in the morning while you have the highest level of energy and willingness. Believe me, the rest of the day will feel better for sure.
4 REMOVE TEMPTATIONS AND DISTRACTIONS
Removing all temptations and distractions from your environment is a crucial first step when working to improve your self-discipline. For instance, if you get distracted easily maybe by a WhatsApp or Facebook, you can start by turning off pop up messages and notification, mute conversations or better turn off data. If you are committed to lose some weight or improve your diet by cutting all the junk food out don’t go to a supermarket on an empty stomach and sweep the shelves with cookies and crisps. Don’t even enter those departments in the supermarket. I hear you are saying, easier said than done! yeh, guilty too! However, training yourself to avoid doing something bad is a big step towards becoming self-disciplined.
5 FORGIVE YOURSELF AND MOVE ON
Even the strongest commitment to be more disciplined won’t always go according to plan. You will have ups and downs, amazing successes, and total failures. When you have a setback, acknowledge what caused it and move on. All these mixed feelings of guilt, frustration, anger will not serve you well in the case of a failure. Instead, embrace it as a learning experience for the future. Remember, no set of discipline habits would be complete without persistence. Persistence is a certain habit that helps us to not give up. So just forgive yourself and try your best tomorrow.
These are 5 tips that work best for me. Certainly, there are many ways to instill this habit, however, the best one is to really come up with some profound reasons as to WHY you want the things in life that you do. When our reasons are strong enough, they can get us through just about anything.
If you feel overwhelmed by attempting to do all of this at once, focus on one step at a time until you feel comfortable with it and start making some progress. Then, move on to the next step and continue to build your self-discipline.
with much love