FEAR! We all have it. It will always be there. Actually, it is a good thing as it protects us from danger. Imagine you are on the top of the high cliff, one small step further and you will fall down and die. Feeling fear will stop you from making that dangerous step further. It is a biological process that always works at the back of our mind.
According to a famous British hypnotherapist Marisa Peer, babies are born with only two fears. The fear of being dropped and the fear of loud noises. They have no other fears. Most of our fears have been acquired throughout our lifetime. Fear of being rejected, fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of pain…
Fear kicks in every time you are facing a new situation. It doesn’t matter whether it is a good or a bad situation, our brain doesn’t feel the difference. It is a new, unknown situation and that is enough for the fear to present itself.
For example, when you have to expose yourself in social media to promote your business the fear of being judged or ignored will follow you and try to stop you from moving forward. Moving forward means expanding your comfort zone. Naturally, it will feel uncomfortable and your brain tries to protect you from being uncomfortable, from feeling pain. This is where fear is coming from. On the other hand, when you are having the momentum in your business and seeing some results coming you might get scared of losing it, that it might not last long.
So how we can handle fear and not letting it stop us from moving forward.
First of all, we have to accept that the fear will always be there, in a bigger or smaller form, but it will be present at some point when we are experiencing something new. We just have to accept it as a fact, ignore it and do it anyway.
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We have to ask ourselves Is This Really True? Does your fear have a rational background? Is it really that dangerous? Are you going to get hurt or may die?
Will I die if I get negative comments on my blog post? It might hurt my feelings for one minute, but I will definitely not going to die. Fear of being unnoticed or receiving bad comments will not stop me from writing my blog, because I know that these imperfect actions will serve me in the long run.
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Another approach to deal with fear is making micro-commitments. When starting our own online or brick & mortar business we have this bigger picture, the vision of where we want to go but the end result might seem so far away and so unattainable at the moment, so we often get overwhelmed and our self-confidence goes lower than the Dead Sea. I have a blog post already about making baby steps towards the goal, you can read it HERE. This is exactly what I mean by micro-commitments. They are tiny every-day actions that look not so scary and huge and therefore achievable that will bring us eventually desirable results.
To overcome fear we have to train our brain to think more positively. Positive thinking is an incredibly powerful way to build self-confidence and neutralize self-sabotage. If we think about the worst possible scenario we actually feel as if we are in that worst possible outcome. We need to think about the best possible outcome instead and it will make all the difference.
The fact is that most fears aren’t real in the way we think they are. They’re just a story we tell ourselves, and we can choose to stop repeating it. We always have two choices either rationalize why we feel so awful or talk ourselves out of it.
Try to say out loud, for example in the shower or in front of the mirror, your favourite positive statements like “everything is going according to the plan”, “I am good at what I am doing”, “I am always in the right place at the right time”, “everything will unfold for my highest benefit” and so on.
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Imagine yourself five years from now, when all your goals have been achieved and you have reached your highest potential. Write a letter to your present self from your future self. What would you tell yourself? What advice would you give to yourself on how to overcome the fears that limit you. This exercise helps to look at the situation from a different perspective and makes the fear less influential.
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When I started my entrepreneurial journey, I was full of fears, self-doubts and limiting beliefs. I still have them to some extent. As I said, fear would always be there. But facing the fear and conquer it became my hobby. I challenge myself on a daily basis and this is what makes me stronger and helps me to grow.
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With much love